tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3595954191454851841.post8088929789782116833..comments2024-03-21T11:13:26.672-04:00Comments on Ink Stains: Confession & HelpInk Stained Ronihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10568216213470645038noreply@blogger.comBlogger63125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3595954191454851841.post-86342597324094882462011-09-19T22:01:27.247-04:002011-09-19T22:01:27.247-04:00I am so sorry Roni. You are such a sweetie and it ...I am so sorry Roni. You are such a sweetie and it must really hurt. I didn't have time to read through all of the lovely supportive comments from everyone, so I don't know if someone already suggested this or not. But why don't you make a scrapbook or journal or shrine or something, dedicated to the little girl you lost. You don't even have to give it to her. It is mostly for yourself to heal. Add photos if you have them and add symbols of things she loved and activities you did together. You can let her know how much you miss her and how much you treasured your time together. It is something that would help me. It's just an idea. Take care. Love CindyCindy Lietz, Polymer Clay Tutorhttp://www.beadsandbeading.com/blog/vine-maple-palette-polymer-clay-color-recipes/14214/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3595954191454851841.post-20993852339712856892011-09-02T00:21:53.941-04:002011-09-02T00:21:53.941-04:00What a terrible thing to happen to such a wonderfu...What a terrible thing to happen to such a wonderful woman and her family! Her karma will come back on her, of that I'm sure! The babies would have been better off with you & your son then with her (even if they weren't blood)!!<br /><br />I feel we are all lucky, here in blogsville, to have you and your extreme talent! Thank you for sharing and having the faith is us to try to and help you. I hope some of these great ideas will inspire you! I love the idea of a technique book!!! If you choose that, I know there'll be one made in my house!<br /><br />Your blog friend!<br />calamityjaneCarol M.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3595954191454851841.post-8769281845002042002011-09-01T14:06:53.002-04:002011-09-01T14:06:53.002-04:00I know that grief is just as real as when I lost m...I know that grief is just as real as when I lost my husband on his way to work shortly before Christmas, making his funeral the day before Christmas eve. Three months later our house was burnt down by my oldest sons former friend (someone we took in to help) but he started on drugs. 5 months later, my company closed it's doors on our facility - making me jobless. 4 months after that I was informed by my oldest son that his girlfriend was pregnant. Do you see a trend? Jobless, homeless, no belongings, no husband????? Well people used to ask how I was making it. I informed them that I woke up breathing the next morning, although I wouldn't have given a darn if I hadn't. 8 1/2 years later I am now 47 and here to tell you that things will get better. Best way - laughing, at yourself, at someone else! LAUGH - I cannot say that delving into crafts helped me because I have a lot of unfinished items and not much of a getgo. There is something you may be able to help me with - PROBLEM: I need to throw a baby shower and the theme is GNOMES - yes. Another long story...but Gnomes. Any ideas for party?Beckylitanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3595954191454851841.post-23892871770561522822011-08-31T15:47:51.100-04:002011-08-31T15:47:51.100-04:00I am so sorry you are having a hard time. I took p...I am so sorry you are having a hard time. I took part in your swap some months ago and believe you are a kind and inspiring lady. In fact just the other night I had your art book by my bed. I find something new every time! <br /><br /><br />Keep smiling and you will see the sun.x<br /><br />I would love to see some embossing projects too! xThe Sparkly Fairyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15331071550145387396noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3595954191454851841.post-90188309977614722162011-08-31T09:58:52.359-04:002011-08-31T09:58:52.359-04:00I'm so sorry to hear about your challenges. W...I'm so sorry to hear about your challenges. What about creating a little project for yourself of processing these feelings of grief and loss through your art? You don't need to share this with anyone and just let it be for your own healing.<br /><br />I'd like to see projects using Moon Glow sprays (or other similar brands) and how to combine these with rubber stamping.<br /><br />I'd also like to see some ideas on creating embellishments that aren't flowers and jewels. I'm addicted to using these, but sometimes would like other embellishment options. I like the idea of using paper clay or something similar but haven't yet tried this.Natalienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3595954191454851841.post-88232810079638447552011-08-30T23:40:04.550-04:002011-08-30T23:40:04.550-04:00I'm so sorry for both you and your son but you...I'm so sorry for both you and your son but you will see, hopefully soon, that every black cloud has a silver lining and her moving out when she did will be part of that. Hopefully, this will be a wake-up call for your son as it is a very hard lesson learned...<br /><br />As for projects, art is therapeutic and I think it would be great for you to work through the 5 Stages of Grief with your art. Do them in order and take as much time as you need for each project, as each person is individual in how long it takes them to go through each stage "in real life." You should find that by the end of your art sessions you will feel better and have some really great art to show for it!<br /><br />Then, shop it around and get it published in an Art Magazine, that will really provide awesome closure!<br /><br />KatinaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3595954191454851841.post-19006458880480077742011-08-30T23:24:11.884-04:002011-08-30T23:24:11.884-04:00My heart goes out to you and your family. You must...My heart goes out to you and your family. You must be hurting so much. Please take care and stay positive Roni.yyamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17118702043678213589noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3595954191454851841.post-58987188036601574442011-08-30T19:51:50.496-04:002011-08-30T19:51:50.496-04:00So sorry to hear about what you have been through ...So sorry to hear about what you have been through the last few months.They must a heartless family<br />to do this to your family.<br />Time does heal all wounds.<br />Would love to do a Christmas charm swap.Also an altered book,anything using beewax,and atc swaps.<br />hugs HelenHelennoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3595954191454851841.post-42441190657237744892011-08-30T18:31:30.888-04:002011-08-30T18:31:30.888-04:00Wow- that is a situation that would be hard to dea...Wow- that is a situation that would be hard to deal with- Bless you! I hope your son is OK too! Will he ask her for a paternity test to make sure it is not really his baby??? Ok on to stamping.....I would love to see more use for the Mica Pads- I never use them...I love the mist technique- I bought the stamp cleaner to use with the reinkers.... I want to learn using journal pages- what kind of paper to use or journal to buy and using more distress techniques.....Shelly Schmidthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10765591282511833255noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3595954191454851841.post-74223811729198392292011-08-30T17:56:25.816-04:002011-08-30T17:56:25.816-04:00Thinking of you from Dartmouth Nova Scotia, it'...Thinking of you from Dartmouth Nova Scotia, it's hard and takes time but the sun will shine in your heart again, and the fact that you accepted the gf with an open an loving heart says a lot about who you are. Now it's time to help your son heal and to begin to heal yourself, we are never given more than we can handle and at this time there is probably only one pair of footsteps in the sand, He will always carry you through the tough times.<br />Hugs from me and my kitties<br />BarbiBarbi Mnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3595954191454851841.post-41254602988000554892011-08-30T17:12:02.927-04:002011-08-30T17:12:02.927-04:00I hope each day makes things easier for you after ...I hope each day makes things easier for you after such a terrible experience. Be positive and think that, except for losing access to the children, maybe your family are well rid of her. One day she will reap as she sews.<br />I think the idea from Peace is wonderful to make a set of Spirit cards with positive affirmations. Don't make the task too daunting and just start with a 1st set of say 10 than we could move on to another set.<br />I hope life and people treat you and your family kinder in the future. Somewhere there is a beautiful kind girl who will make your son very happy and forget all this.<br />Love jo xJoZart Designshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15197690337080094062noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3595954191454851841.post-90875241145225433792011-08-30T16:17:41.565-04:002011-08-30T16:17:41.565-04:00You're a wonderful person, Roni, and an excell...You're a wonderful person, Roni, and an excellent artist. It's terrible to experience this loss, but honestly, you and your son were incredibly lucky. You had a close call with that sick family. There may be nothing you can do now for the children except wish them well. But you did provide them, as someone noted above, with much needed love. I would never mind WHY it happened, you can think about that later if you want. Right now you're right to immerse yourself in art, and I vote for fabric embellishments --gooey stuff on fabric is interesting, or fabric in unexpected combinations --with metal, with beeswax, with glass. Sending you love and light, Roni, knowing you'll find many outlets for your love.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3595954191454851841.post-30693644688104691052011-08-30T14:24:26.649-04:002011-08-30T14:24:26.649-04:00I just recently came across your blog and became a...I just recently came across your blog and became a follower. Your creativity is so absolutely awesome. The pain you are going through brought tears to my eyes. I've been in a similar situation, and what you are going through will eventually be easier to deal with. Sharing this with all these people who care about you is definitely a start in the healing and emotional cleansing process - kudos to you for being able to do this. The loss of children you care for is devastating. I also suspect that you )are deeply hurting for you son also. (When my ex-dil caused my son such deep pain, I hurt for him. I prayed for God to take this grief from my son's heart - it was awful to see him hurt so badly. It may not seem so at this time, but it is probably better that things happened now, because she would have brought greater pain to your son and the family on down the road. <br /> I loved the charms, and you have inspired me to start making them. As for future projects, anything you design will be wonderful - so just surprise us!<br />Hugs,<br />PatsyPatsy B.https://www.blogger.com/profile/12299159883948123052noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3595954191454851841.post-18787680064621392502011-08-30T12:11:14.609-04:002011-08-30T12:11:14.609-04:00How awful for you all, and especially for your son...How awful for you all, and especially for your son. <br />I recently went through a 'bad time' myself and spent all my time hiding up in my summerhouse - no phone no internet! What got me going again was looking at other stampers work (and keeping up my DT work which was hard). I've started slowly just making birthday cards, but in styles I enjoy. My next step is to enter a couple of challenges - but again only those I enjoy. I find having something specific in mind helps (bit like your idea really). <br />Sending you love. xxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3595954191454851841.post-78987017572402486602011-08-30T12:03:01.088-04:002011-08-30T12:03:01.088-04:00wow, so many great replies. I am so sorry to hear ...wow, so many great replies. I am so sorry to hear about this situation but also, glad that you shared it. Even after all this time, there is such a stigma around grief. I hope that some of these wonderful ideas will help you! I'm also in a rut but interested in making something for halloween that is useful... I get hung up on doing crafts for "no reason". As if our mental health wasn't reason enough! ;) Hang in there sweet lady! One day you will have a daughter in law and grandkids that truly appreciate you!<br />AllisonAllisonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07864436338682459100noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3595954191454851841.post-6443209208018816592011-08-30T11:52:53.959-04:002011-08-30T11:52:53.959-04:00Your son is still young. This has been a heartwre...Your son is still young. This has been a heartwrenching lesson and that is part of having to be a child/adult. It is never easy. It is far easier for all to have happened before the baby. He only needs to be responsible for himself and not for a loveless woman. The baby is in the for the long haul but it is not your responsibility. This is life and life keeps us on our toes and appreciates the goodness when it comes our way. I have so many products that I become disallusioned with ideas. I am always amazed with your creativity! I think you are awesome in your field. You have many "friends" and you are fortunate to have us in your life and vice versa.Louise Dahlgrennoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3595954191454851841.post-73518049398401256382011-08-30T11:11:45.488-04:002011-08-30T11:11:45.488-04:00I have been waiting and wondering when the baby wa...I have been waiting and wondering when the baby was going to arrive an all that. Its tough but at least Ben will have a fresh start in ways. He loses so much but also won't have as much of a curvable trying to provide for a family all at once. <br />Wow look at all these comments, you are so loved!Crafty and Craphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14718697393793533890noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3595954191454851841.post-45547009445394317632011-08-30T10:41:43.442-04:002011-08-30T10:41:43.442-04:00Roni, I offer my heart felt best wishes for you. ...Roni, I offer my heart felt best wishes for you. I lost my last aunt in July and my brother just this past week, so I can completely relate to the over whelming feelings of loss. It doesn't all feel real yet. My way of working through grief, sadness, etc. has always been through my art. So I just keep plugging along. And then I remind myself to use my best stuff first and try everything. That's when I throw away all the rules and try things I have been putting on hold. From my perspective, any form of grief reminds us of our own mortality, the things we have done and the things we have left undone. My thoughts are with you, and my heart too.Theresahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07742451240232977154noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3595954191454851841.post-86623766228201234072011-08-30T10:26:09.385-04:002011-08-30T10:26:09.385-04:00Roni, I'm so sorry for you and your family I ...Roni, I'm so sorry for you and your family I don't understand what makes people stoop to such deception. I really feel sorry for her children; they're missing out not having you and your family in their lives. My heart goes out to you. <br /><br />God bless you and your family. May He walk with your family through this valley and "bestow on them a crown of beauty instead of ashes, the oil of joy instead of mourning, and a garment of praise instead of a spirit of despair." - Isaiah 61:3TXMesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11529111200504502698noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3595954191454851841.post-71303540894112634382011-08-30T09:38:14.499-04:002011-08-30T09:38:14.499-04:00So sorry to hear about the loss of your creative u...So sorry to hear about the loss of your creative urge due to family upheaval. Maybe someday you will be able to see the kids again. I would like to see Asian inspired art or technique based art with basic tools/supplies. Hope you start to feel creative soon.kibson77611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3595954191454851841.post-25838578393573956592011-08-30T09:35:09.175-04:002011-08-30T09:35:09.175-04:00oh you poor thing. the bright side (i am a real pe...oh you poor thing. the bright side (i am a real pessimist so have been forcing myself to look on the bright side which i find really irritating but much better for my health) is that this Amber tramp would have made your life and DS lives miserable. the pain/anger/depression will lift. so a challange - i need inspiratin, i haven't stamped all summer. only scrapped 2 or 3 pages. i'm in a funk for no good reason. i want some cards to send , halloween, Christmas, EAster, thinking of you, -Elegant, lovely , vintage cards without a lot of 3D embellies cuz of the mailing hassle. i also want MAN cards, they are the hardest. i'll be thinking of you, thanks for sharing.i love your blog, always learn somethingbethannhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18355158834972571305noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3595954191454851841.post-36730148925253654552011-08-30T09:09:20.024-04:002011-08-30T09:09:20.024-04:00I commend you for asking for help and sharing your...I commend you for asking for help and sharing your story. I read your blog as soon as it comes out, you always inspire me. Sad thing is, I have never one time shared with you how much I LOVE your tips, tricks, and inspirational ideas. How sad. I apologize for that. So, THANK YOU!!! Quick suggestion to you- check out www.casaforchildren.org It's something I passionately invest my time into. The program and children NEED people like you involved. It may help heal your heart while you help a child in need. (Just a thought)<br /><br />I find myself totally engrossed in projects that you demonstrate inks, glimmer mists, perfect pearls etc... That's what inspires me. I love your projects and advice. So, if you have any (even basic) tips and ideas you would like to share using inks, solvents, glues, etc... that's what I would love to read.<br /><br />HugsFolkArtFanatichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10198011130732034376noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3595954191454851841.post-7963435586628560472011-08-30T09:03:44.633-04:002011-08-30T09:03:44.633-04:00Roni--I'd love to see some jewelry crafts. Do...Roni--I'd love to see some jewelry crafts. Do you do metal stamping? I'd love to know a bit more about what I must have/buy to do that. Or the basics of making a bracelet, with beads...nothing too complicated.<br /><br />One question...'she' says the baby is not your son's ...is she lying? If she is lying then that is your grand baby and you have rights as grandparents. You may want to exercise those rights.<br /><br />If she is telling the truth you and your son are lucky to be rid of her...but those poor children. <br />Not only will they suffer, they are the future of this country and the whole country therefore suffers.Dinahsoarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03877872564454797447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3595954191454851841.post-79396665773517764312011-08-30T07:45:49.957-04:002011-08-30T07:45:49.957-04:00Roni - I think you have the right idea of immersin...Roni - I think you have the right idea of immersing yourself in a project. A book of techniques would be awesome! On a smaller scale, I would like to create a frame on a mirror with irridescent polymer clay tiles (mosaic). I love alcohol inks and have been thinking of incorporating Perfect Pearls or Pearl Ex to get the sheen. Any ideas? Wishing you peace and strength.Juliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06477580521882937746noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3595954191454851841.post-60986374147553691002011-08-30T07:10:57.881-04:002011-08-30T07:10:57.881-04:00What a low life piece of crap she is. You know wh...What a low life piece of crap she is. You know what, one day she will get what she deserves and you, and your son, are well rid of her. It's the children I feel sorry for. I totally understand how you feel. How anyone can be so heartless is beyond me but it shows what kind of a person she truly is. Her children have one hell of a role model don't they?<br /><br />I always have a problem making a card using alcohol ink backgrounds. I can't do it unless I take the paper and glue it to a card front because when I'm making the background, the ink spills over the edges. Maybe you have a trick to doing a folded card and NOT having the ink ooze over the edges? Also, a project for you which would be great for us.....maybe you could do an on line booklet picking techniques you've posted in the past, or new techniques, and post them every day. We could print them, save them, and have them for reference.<br /><br />I would love to be able to make you feel better but that has to happen for you in time. A thought, think of how much worse this would have been for you and your son if piece of crap had hung around for years and then did this. This is bad, that would have been worse. Something to be glad about? There's an up side to everything. Maybe, although you're devastated about this whole thing, the upside is that your son is not stuck with a blood sucking, lazy a@@ed person who uses people for what she can get from them. As I said before, it's the kids I feel sorry for. They're stuck with her forever and unfortunately, they may turn out just like her. Kids learn what they see. Let's hope not. Hang in there....better days are coming...they always do. When we think we can't get through something horrible like this, somehow we do. What doesn't kill us makes us stronger.LorraineBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15164803983607894770noreply@blogger.com